• Preparing for and Responding to Injury, Illness, Death, and Bereavement

    Death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity. Death, then, being the way and condition of life, we cannot love to live, if we cannot bear to die.

    William Penn, 1693

    Quakers do have something very special to offer the dying and the bereaved, namely that we are at home in silence. Not only are we thoroughly used to it and unembarrassed by it, but we know something about sharing it, encountering others in its depths, and above all, letting ourselves be used in it…. People so often talk about someone “getting over” a death. How could you ever fully get over a deep loss? Life has been changed profoundly and irrevocably. You don’t get over sorrow; you work your way right to the centre of it.

    Diana Lampen, 1979

    Preparing for Injury, Illness, and Death

    Injuries are often unexpected, and an individual who has suffered one may be unable to care for herself or himself for a period of time, or even permanently. Serious illness, including mental illness, can also occur at any time. Either injury or illness may require an extended period for recovery and rehabilitation, or may even result in death. In either case there will be a need for support from the meeting.

  • Recognizing Spiritual Gifts and Leadings

    All Friends are called into a ministry sooner or later, whether public or private, in word or deed or silent prayer, of long duration or short.

    Lloyd Lee Wilson, 1993

    All Friends are called to minister to others, but not all are called to do so in the same way. Offering a vocal message during meeting for worship is the best-known form of Quaker ministry, but it is far from the only one. Ministry may involve caring for those who are ill, teaching First Day School, or helping with hospitality for the meeting’s events. These forms of ministry rarely call for formal recognition, but they serve to deepen the covenant community that is at the core of every Friends meeting.

    Ministry is most effective when it takes place in accordance with one’s gifts and leadings. In Quaker parlance, a “gift” is a God-given ability that is intended to be used for spiritual purposes, while a “leading” is a call to action based on a Friend’s sense that God has led them to take on a particular cause, for example pastoral counseling or chaplaincy in a prison or hospital. Such leadings typically emerge as a result of prayerful consideration of a concern, and they often reflect the gifts of the person who is led to act on them.

  • Membership

    Becoming a member of the Religious Society of Friends is a public act of accepting God’s gift of a spiritual home and family. In being recorded as a member, one accepts the support and practices of this community for spiritual growth and assumes responsibility for the activities of the meeting as well as its practical and spiritual maintenance. This is a spiritual community bound together by love in which there are mutual expectations for trust, open communication, forgiveness, participation, and perseverance in the face of differences. Membership is not a sign of having reached a particular level of spiritual accomplishment, but it does mean that the new member has decided to pursue their spiritual development in the context of this Quaker community.

  • Clearness and Support Committees

    The clearness committee is, at its heart, about the mystery of personhood and of God’s call in our lives. These are intertwined dynamics by which we become more fully human.

    Valerie Brown, 2017

    Clearness Committees

    Clearness committees are intended to serve Friends who seek assistance in reaching clarity about a personal concern or decision. Such committees help Friends determine what God would have them do based on the Quaker belief in the Inner Light in each person. (See “The Light Within and Its Religious Implications.”) The task of clearness committees is to provide spiritual support in helping Friends attend to, and be guided by, the Inner Light.

    Any Friend is welcome to seek the assistance of a clearness committee to clarify an issue and seek a way forward, or to discern the truth of a leading. More specifically, Friends may seek clarity about a proposed marriage (see “Marriage”), membership in a monthly meeting (see “Membership”), a change in family circumstances, a move to another region, a change in vocation or job, a contemplated divorce, taking a stand or witness on a public issue, traveling in the ministry, or any other personal concern for which a decision is needed.

  • Testimonies

    Among the distinctive Quaker principles are those known as the testimonies. These are values that Friends hold corporately, and which are reflected in our witness to the world.

    The testimonies express our communal experience of the Light Within and our commitment to its fruits. We show this commitment in our outward lives: in our dedication to living peacefully, for example, and in our love for each other in “that which is eternal.” Living out the testimonies in thought and action reflects the influence of the Holy Spirit in our lives.

  • The Light Within and its Religious Implications

    Deep within us all there is an amazing inner sanctuary of the soul, a holy place, a Divine Center, a speaking Voice, to which we may continuously return. Eternity is at our hearts, pressing upon our time-torn lives, warming us with intimations of an astounding destiny, calling us home unto Itself. Yielding to these persuasions, gladly committing ourselves in body and soul, utterly and completely, to the Light Within, is the beginning of true life.

    Thomas R. Kelly, 1941

    The Religious Society of Friends encompasses a wide variety of beliefs and perspectives, but perhaps the most distinctively Quaker religious concept is that of the Light Within. Also frequently called the “Spirit” or “that of God in everyone,” the Light is a Divine Presence within each of us: a manifestation of God in all people. Identified by early Friends as the living Spirit of Christ, the Light serves as a moral guide, a comfort in times of need, a spur to action, and the Seed from which inward spiritual transformation can grow.

  • Concerning this Book of Faith and Practice

    Early Quakers had a vivid sense of the Holy Spirit as an active presence, transforming themselves, their dealings with each other, and the entire world. They honored each person’s direct access to the Light, yet were aware of the frailty of human judgment. Their response was to develop practices of communal listening, seeking, and discerning. Meeting for worship, meeting for business, and some more specialized practices were all developed to allow the group to clarify and support individual guidance and revelation. Today, Quakers continue to revise, refine, and hand on their characteristic practices of corporate listening and waiting, because these practices work.

  • Photo of two people walking up to the ILYM meeting house.

    Reflections on the Women and Gender Minority Retreat as a First Time Attendee

    Lisa Thompson, Lake Forest Friends Meeting

    On a chilly afternoon in late April, I hopped into my van with two other Lake Forest Friends to travel to McNabb, Illinois for a weekend retreat open to cisgender women, self-identifying women, and gender minorities. We had food and luggage, sleeping bags, etc., stashed in the back and we were ready to go. But we had no idea what to expect. The topic was Nonviolent Communication. I have some experience with workshops on that subject, but I was eager to learn more.

    We arrived at the ILYM campus just before supper. One of our carpool friends planned to sleep in the cabins, so we helped her set up, then headed to the Clear Creek House. The folks who had arrived early had made soup and bread. They set it out before we arrived. Every bit of the food was allergen friendly and/or labeled. which for me was a big deal. The food was also Jain friendly for our guest speakers. Jains eat a diet geared towards reducing violence on the environment. It is similar to a vegetarian diet, but also refuses any food that destroys the plant upon harvest or risks harming insect or microorganisms when pulled from the ground. Eggs, cheeses, and yogurt are also restricted because they may have living or dead creatures within. Do you know how unusual it is to find Jain-friendly food at an event? Amazing!

  • Peace Testimony – Personal Statements

    The members of the ILYM Peace Resources Committee gathered in early 2006 to finalize the elements of the Peace Testimony Workshop and test their effectiveness by doing them ourselves. After a day of personal exercises, worship sharing, and group discussion, each person wrote their own Personal Peace Testimony. What is included here has been posted with permission. We are eager to help others to do similar work.

    Chuck Hutchcraft, 3/2006

    Many years ago, I bought a T-shirt that said, “Peace Begins with Me.” It has taken me a long time to see the truth of this.

    Peace is an intimate, ongoing process of working with ourselves.

    In each of us are the seeds of peace as well as the seeds of violence. None of us is exempt, regardless of whether we are pacifists or not. If we are to be peacemakers, it is up to each of us to nurture our own seeds of peace. No one else can do it.

    To understand this is to know that we are evolving beings and that we can foster or hinder our own evolution.

    To foster our evolution requires a subtle awareness. From moment to moment, we see how our conditioned states, our habit patterns, shape our responses to constantly changing circumstances. Thus we see when we nurture the seeds of peace or the seeds of violence. We not only see but feel this in the very fiber of our existence. As this awareness deepens we refine our sense of what it takes to be peace and of the many ways we cause violence. We see that to hinder this evolution is itself violence.

    As we nurture this awareness, without judgment and with compassion for ourselves, our hearts open. We transform ourselves. We evolve.

    Actually, this awareness is not learned, it is not obtained from somewhere outside of us. It is that from which we all come. When we awake to it, we come home. In coming home, we find a way to peace.

    Breeze Richardson, 3/2006

    At my core, to be at peace; both with myself and those around me. To be honest, thoughtful and forgiving.

    In my heart, to honor the virtue and sacredness of all life. To act outwardly how I feel in my heart; and to live each day with intention and gracefulness, guided by the still, small voice within me.

    And with conviction, to work for justice; so that others may find peace and live by it. To address anger and violence towards me with groundedness, strength, straightforwardness and truth.

    For we each carry only one drop of knowledge.

    Bridget Rorem, 3/2006

    Bridget’s Peace Testimony:
    I attempt to be led by the Spirit of Christ: to feed the hungry, to clothe the naked, to give comfort to the sick and imprisoned, to love my enemies, to resist evil non-violently. I am not universally successful in such attempts. I am willful and far too often have not noticed, or taken care to notice, the feelings and conditions of those around me. I am too slow to seek forgiveness and sometimes reluctant to grant forgiveness. I am impatient.

    But the Spirit of Christ asks me to do better. I truly desire a world without war, a world without the misery of poverty, a world without greed. I know, because the Spirit has led me to know, that I must lead my life with greater integrity, that I must every day submit to being led by the Spirit. I seek unity with God, who is on no one’s side, but in whose eyes we are all equal and loved beings.

    Charles T. Smith, 3/2006

    A Personal Declaration of Peace:
    I see that of God in every person: me, my wife, my kids, my extended family, my friends, strangers on the street, Osama Bin Laden, everyone. Therefore, I cannot kill or support the killing of others. Further, I know from experience and from listening to the Spirit that every conflict among humans can be resolved nonviolently. I also know that many conflicts are not resolved nonviolently, but I understand that that is not caused by the Spirit. It is, instead, caused by human beings not hearing or not listening to the Spirit. I have no enemies and I am not at war, but I also know that I must constantly remind myself of these simple facts. I acknowledge that I have been trained to kill and that I have often been seduced by “the myth of redemptive violence.” I forgive myself for this and seek the forgiveness of any I have harmed. I will be ever vigilant to look ahead and take the steps necessary to find nonviolent solutions to conflict. I am committed to rooting out violence in every facet of my life. Only in this way can I be a part of bringing forth the peaceful kingdom of God here now on Earth.

    Dawn L. Rubbert, 3/2006

    Personal Peace Testimony of Dawn L. Rubbert:
    There is that of God in everyone. When I do harm to another, knowingly or unwittingly, I do harm to God. The good thing is, God can take it. Others may not fare so well.

    There is that of God in everyone. When I do harm to myself I do harm to God.

    Harm is anything which wounds the body, the spirit, the mind. Harm disturbs peace.

    Peace is the condition of living harmoniously with God’s creation earth, air, fire & water. Peace is living in community with all life plant, animal & human.

    Living peacefully is the condition of continual discernment regarding what acts are harmful. Living peacefully means periodically becoming vulnerable within community to re-examine how I am doing, to discover how I have grown, and to learn what I must change to continue on the path of peacefulness.

    David H. Finke, 3/2006

    (“…but what canst THOU say?”)
    One Friend’s Peace Testimony:

    I hope to give faithful expression to that heritage handed to me, but on which I must make a personal commitment. The gifts of the past must find expression in the challenges of the moment; I must know where I stand, and in what I am rooted, to be able to act with responsibility and integrity in a world filled with violence, depredation, inhumanity, cruelty, irrationality. I must trust that if I go to the Fountain, and drink of the Living Water, I will be sustained. If I attend to the promptings and leadings of My Teacher, I shall not be abandoned. God promises to be ever-present in our engagement with Life.

    Though not born a Quaker, I had the blessing of being nourished in a family which took seriously Jesus’ example and teachings, and sought to be witnesses in this world to his Living Presence. Thinking about the implications of the Gospel for concrete issues of war and peace, racial justice, equitable economic relations, and all the affairs of life, has always seemed very real to me. Nonetheless, I could not and cannot live off the virtue of others; I continue to believe that I must attend to my own “call to discipleship.”

    To echo what I just told a newspaper reporter this last week, trying to understand conscientious objection, I do not point to a single passage of scripture, a specific text, to guide my own action on issues involved in our testimony of peace. Rather, I see the whole impact of a life of prophetic vision, service, and sacrifice as it affected an emerging sense of peoplehood, in whose lineage I take my place. “Yeshua ben Youssef” of Nazareth is my rabbi, my master, my teacher, and my continuing Companion and Guide, whom the forces of death and conspiracies of evil could not overcome. Looking to the guidance of God’s Holy Spirit, indelibly revealed in Jesus’ life, is the source of my own Peace Testimony. The implications of God’s unfolding will for my life will continue to grow, I trust, for the rest of my life.

    It is manifestly clear to me, as it was to that first generation of followers of Jesus (and rediscovered in the first generation of Friends of the Light), that his Way and the way of the sword are incompatible. I am called to the Way of Reconciliation, of understanding, of forgiveness, of Active Goodwill. (I learn much the same lessons in the life and teachings of other enlightened and faithful human beings, such as Gandhi and Day and King, and Friends I have known in the flesh — a universality of the Truth of God.)

    Sometimes I use the shorthand phrase of “nonviolence,” to express where I come from and what I’m about, but that word is too limited. Rather, I want to acknowledge both the foundational Source as well as the concrete expressions of how God’s love transforms human life — a rich, unending, and complex challenge, for which I have had and will have “companions along the way.”

    Friends Peace Testimony grew out of unmerited suffering, in which they strove to show their harmlessness (Gandhi’s ahimsa.) But they sought and I seek not simply an exempted, privileged position away from the conflicts of the world. Rather, this testimony of peace must entail work with and on behalf of “the least of these, my brethren,” in testimony to that sense of Justice so passionately expressed by the ancient Hebrew prophets, from whom I also take guidance. This is part of what is meant by saying No to warmaking and saying Yes to peacemaking. “Would that ye knew the things that make for peace” — a lament we read in the Bible. My work in faithfulness to a Peace Testimony must take shape in the pursuit of Shalom, which entails wholeness and structures of justice, not just absence of conflict.

    I am exceeding the length I intended to write. The fascinating challenge is for us to keep sharing these personal pilgrimages and insights with each other, and then to move beyond our individualism to find how we corporately, as a people, show forth “the Fruits of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, self-control…” and have a transformative place in the liberation of our world.

    Among Friends article Summer 2006

    [this is a copy of an article on the process, printed in the Summer 2006 issue of Among Friends, on pp 25-26.]

    In March, members of the Peace Resources Committee gathered at a retreat center in Southern Illinois. The task we had set out for ourselves was no small job: create a workshop on the Peace Testimony. The genesis for the workshop arose, in part, as the committee pursued a vision for the Peace House on the Prairie and, in part, from desires expressed during the Dream Gathering process.

    But mainly it was spurred on by the war in Iraq and the sense that it is incumbent on Quakers to re-examine their relationship to the Peace Testimony and how it manifests in their lives. It was our hope that we could offer the workshop to Meetings throughout Illinois Yearly meeting, and that the workshop would draw Friends of all ages.

    PRC owes a great debt to Breeze Richardson of 57th Street Meeting, who put together big chunks of what would become the workshop and made the rest of us think that we did a lot of work. Looking back, we did do a lot of work by way of laying the foundation. In several meetings over the previous five months we prayerfully shared our understanding of the Peace Testimony and our hopes for the workshop.

    The words of George Fox kept coming back to us, What canst thou say? It was our sense that the Peace Testimony is not a concept or statement cast in stone, but an awareness and understanding that will deepen and grow, when nurtured by continual inward re-examination and spiritual endeavor, individually and collectively. We tested the workshop by going through it ourselves. It took a better part of that Saturday. We found it to be, in many ways, a transformative experience.

    A segment of the workshop will be offered each day of the annual sessions at McNabb. We will then offer the full workshop it to Monthly Meetings upon request.
    by Chuck Hutchcraft

  • Peace Resources

    Purpose & History

    The Peace Resources Committee consists of 6-12 members appointed for 3 year terms to accomplish the objectives listed below. The ILYM Peace Resources Committee neither duplicates nor replaces the work done within monthly meetings. Instead, over time, the hope is for a liaison relationship to develop between monthly meeting committees and this yearly meeting committee. The Nominating Committee has aimed to find members for the committee who are Friends with gifts, skills, knowledge and strong leadings regarding the objectives.

    Objectives:

    1. To develop a proactive conscientious objection counselling program;
    2. To assist young Friends in expressing their personal peace testimonies and documenting these beliefs for their spiritual growth as well as for a draft board, should one be activated;
    3. To share these processes with junior high, senior high and Adult Young Friends in cooperation with the Youth Oversight Committee;
    4. To explore possibilities of working with existing peace-building activities such as the Quaker Volunteer Service, Training & Witness Committee; Project Lakota; and the AFSC/Intermountain Yearly Meeting Joint Service Project to enhance peace building with a spiritual and service-oriented basis for Young Friends;
    5. To encourage Friends to examine and re-examine the meaning of the Peace Testimony in the context of our response to modern terrorism and war which has made it possible to wreak major devastation on people and their environment with minimal direct human involvement;
    6. To become a source of knowledge and to encourage Friends’ consideration of the options for and rationale of resistance to payment of war taxes;
    7. To serve as a resource for monthly meetings, quarterly meetings, regional meetings and IYLM’s program committee in identifying knowledgeable speakers and workshop leaders on the above topics.

    Membership:

    Current Members:

    • Kent Busse
    • Mark McGinnis
    • Dave Moorman
    • Jan Mullen
    • Dan Stevens

    Peace Tax Fund Committee Members:

    • John Knox
    • Dave Moorman

    Resources

    Since the committee’s inception, many different leadings have taken shape and collective projects and initiatives have manifested the committee’s work in different ways:

    How Do You See Peace? – Blog

    Members of the PRC committee have contributed to the blog: How Do You See Peace? where Friends are invited to visit, read what has been contributed to this ‘virtual potluck conversation’, and leave your own thoughts to further the dialogue and discourse underway.

    Peace Testimony Workshop

    In 2006, the IYLM Peace Resources Committee developed a workshop for use by Monthly Meetings to deepen our corporate and individual understandings of Friends’ historic Peace Testimony and contemporary expressions of it. The Peace Testimony Workshop is available to any gathering of ILYM, recommended as an all-day workshop (approximately 7 hours, including lunch). To schedule facilitators to visit your Meeting or gathering, contact Peace Resources Committee here.

    Peace Testimony Workshop Advance Readings

    After a Monthly Meeting has arranged for this workshop and a date for the workshop has been chosen, the assigned PRC facilitators will choose for one of them to serve as the Meeting’s liaison to oversee preparations, including Advanced Readings. This collection includes both Required and Recommended works. While workshop participants are encouraged to read recommended texts, required texts are crucial to ensure that the workshop will be a deep and meaningful experience. It is suggested that numerous copies of the required texts be made available by the Meeting to Meeting members and the attenders; please ask the PRC facilitator assigned to your Meeting if you’d like help arranging this.

    When creating this workshop, PRC members themselves walked through the experience, which culminates in the authoring of one’s personal peace testimony. To read a selection of Personal Peace Testimony Statements.

    On the Death Penalty

    Illinois Yearly Meeting of the Religious Society of Friends reaffirms its historic and continuing testimony in opposition to capital punishment. Among other places, our testimony is set forth in “The Book of Discipline of the Religious Society of Friends, Christian Practice, Business Procedure”, adopted by Illinois Yearly Meeting 1927, at page 59, in a section headed “Treatment of Civic Offenders”, which states:

    Enlightened treatment of civic offenders by constructive methods rather than by merely punitive action is a reform challenging those who endeavor to follow Christian principles. While condemning unrighteous acts, we should at the same time seek to have offenders treated in a manner conducive to the strengthening of moral character, the maintenance of their self-respect, and their reclamation as useful members of society.

    Friends are opposed to capital punishment because it is contrary to the Divine law of love. The application of the death penalty is brutalizing and degrading to the public mind. It leaves no room for the reformation of character, which should be the principal aim of criminal law, nor for the revision of the sentence in the event of a miscarriage of justice.”

    Presently, capital punishment is provided as a possible sentence in two of the four states in which Illinois Yearly Meeting of Friends’ members live, as well as in United States federal and military prosecutions. Execution of prisoners remains an active possibility in each of those jurisdictions (including the states of Indiana and Missouri).

    Friends are encouraged to become involved, as their individual consciences dictate, in local activist organizations opposing capital punishment; contact information for such organizations is listed on the website of the Death Penalty Information Center. Monthly and Quarterly Meetings also are encouraged to invite local speakers to address their groups, and to make written information available to the attendees, to raise awareness of this issue; given the mobility of the American population and existence of federal death penalty laws, such awareness is crucial even in states which do not practice capital punishment. ILYM Peace Resources Committee is available to suggest and/or lead such programs on request of Monthly or Quarterly meetings.

    Friends are invited to download and sign the anti-death penalty “Declaration of Life” wallet card, demonstrating your personal opposition to the death penalty. For more information about this campaign, click here.

    An Ecumenical Call to Just Peace

    In July 2011 the Friends of Illinois Yearly Meeting gathered at our historic meeting house outside of McNabb, IL. During this time together, business was conducted and resources shared, including a document from the World Council of Churches called, “An Ecumenical Call to Just Peace.”

    ILYM Peace Resources Committee has been asked to further distribute this document widely for consideration. Authored in February 2011, the Preamble includes the decree:

    Aware that the promise of peace is a core value of all religions, [this Call] reaches out to all who seek peace according to their own religious traditions and commitments. [sic] The call is … commended for study, reflection, collaboration and common action.

    We share it with you here, recommending it for study by individual Friends and monthly Meetings, and invite for you to share your thoughts by Leaving a Reply here.

    Minutes on Peace (archive)

    A collection of monthly, quarterly, and yearly meeting minutes on peace concerns.

    Additional Resources

    Web Resources

    Conscientious Objection

    Peace & Nonviolence Training; Research

    Civic Action

    Youth

    Active Military & Veterans

    Peace Link Collections